I recently uploaded a video called “Gum Chewing Quotes + Storytime” and in it, I shared some quotes. As promised, here are the ones I included in the video…
One remember that we are all somehow interconnected and without you the world wouldn’t be the same and your presence is important and it does makes a difference on everyone else’s life directly or indirectly. you’re like magic. there’s so many people in the future you don’t know yet that will be so happy to have you in their life and they will love you so much so please never give up!! the world needs you. nothing would ever be the same without you
Two Don’t chase people. Be an example. Attract them. Work hard and be yourself. The people who belong in your life will come find you and stay. Just do your thing
Three Focus on the journey, not on the destination
Four You will find ur Person. sometimes it may confuse u bc they’re not shiny like a movie the way u imagined, but u’ll know by the calm they bring
Five This is just a reminder that you’re allowed to be sad. Even if you’re not supposed to be. Even if the sun is shining and the birds are singing, even if you’re just standing in your bathroom brushing your teeth. You’re allowed to feel sad when you’re blowing out the birthday candles, or when you’re holding your little sister on your lap. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. You’re allowed to be sad.
Six Go ahead and be there for people. Offer a listening ear when they manage to heave the words they’ve been trying to say out of their throat. Be that shoulder to cry on when the dam breaks and their tears flood down their face. But remember, you are human. Not hospital, not clinic, human. And even they need to be maintained, so it’s only natural that you do too. Don’t forget yourself.
— Maxwell Diawuoh, Once A Day (321/366)
- push yourself to get up before the rest of the world – start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise.
2. push yourself to fall asleep earlier – start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.
3. get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else.
4. stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything.
5. buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.
6. buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small.
7. strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full.
8. organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle.
9. have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.
10. push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog.
11. message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through.
13. think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything.
14. become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.
15. lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.
(via elauxe) A self care list. I’ve been working on this. I promise it’s worth it.
Eight “It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self love deficit.” — Eartha Kitt
Nine “People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don’t find myself saying, “Soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner.” I don’t try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds.” — Carl Rogers
Ten “If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another. The Universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is not right or wrong.” — Deepak Chopra
Eleven “Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.” — Louise Erdrich
Twelve The problem with depression is that everything in our day-to-day lives becomes difficult to accomplish and people tell those suffering to “Get over it.” So then it becomes paradoxical. Because it’s a lot more difficult than just “getting over it” but at the same time, it’s what we must tell ourselves to overcome it.