ASMR Reading Quotes
Be the set of ears that is always willing to listen. One cry of help hidden amidst the rest of world’s noises deserves just as much to be heard as anyone else. Be that one to pause, focus in, and open your heart towards those that are not being heard.
— Nicole Addison
Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your wellbeing a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful — you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.
— Daniell Koepke
When is it time to call it quits?
When you discern a different path to take that better suits you, which facilitates the growth, healing, and awakening you need.
Quitting is like death; it is half of a change. Make that change work for you and you can give yourself to that little death.
Namaste 🙂 – lazyyogi
How to Care Less about what Other People Think
1. Know what matters to you, personally – what you stand for, and what your values are .
2. Don’t be anxious about breaking social norms. The more often you do this, and go against the flow, the less it will bother you to simply be yourself.
3. Decide not to live as a people pleaser, or to get upset and take rejection personally.
4. Hang out with people who are self confident, who know what they believe in, and what they want from life. You’ll find their self-confidence will rub off on you, too, and you’ll start to worry less about what other people think.
5. Working on becoming more competent in the skills and areas that matter to you. That will naturally enhance your self confidence, and develop a self image that is strong and positive.
6. Travel, or spend time with lots of different people. That will show you how diverse attitudes and outlooks are. That is, there’s no one way of being – so find, and be, yourself.
Important Life Lessons
1. You only have this moment so live in the “now”.
2. Life is over quickly so fight for what matters – your values and beliefs … hopes and dreams … and those you love.
3. If you make the sacrifice, you will reap the benefits.
4. Procrastination keeps you tied to yesterday. For what you do today will determine your tomorrow.
5. See failure as lesson, and a bridge to success. We all fail at times – it’s the way we grow and learn.
6. The most important relationship you have in this the life is the relationship that you have with yourself. So value, affirm and believe in yourself.
7. What we do – not what we say – reveals our true character.
8. Remember to be kind for everyone is fighting a hard battle.
How do I stop projecting my anxiety onto others and blaming them for it?
Contemplate a few things:
Where is your anxiety experienced?
In your own brain and body.
It is not beamed into you by an external force.
People react differently to different stimuli.
What causes anxiety in you may not cause anxiety in others.
Again, this highlights that your anxiety is your own.
If you blame others for your anxiety, you will not be free from it.
You will simply resent other people and try to change them.
Trying to change the world around us to make us feel more comfortable in our insecurities is like trying to cover the earth in leather to avoid the pain of walking on sticks and stones.
It is much easier to simply wear shoes.
If you take responsibility for your anxiety, then you can do something about it.
When you acknowledge that the anxiety is coming from within you and is somehow tied into your wiring, you can then set about the task of rewiring and realigning yourself such that you are free from it.
Anxiety is nothing to be ashamed of–it is a common struggle. Own it and work toward being free from it.
Many people are prescribed anti-anxiety medication and perhaps that helps them. Maybe there are side-effects, maybe it’s expensive. I don’t know. What I do know is that meditation and mindfulness have been found to be as effective, they are free, and you can start practicing them today.
The difficulty about general anxiety is that it arises because our perception, our sense of self, and our sense of the world is out of balance. Those things are intertwined in nuanced ways. How we perceive past and future, how we seek happiness and peace, who we think we are, all of these things come into play to make anxiety possible.
While daily meditation and mindfulness will help you to begin unraveling all of that, the book The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle will help you to understand the circumstances you have unconsciously set up for yourself that makes anxiety possible.
Read, meditate, practice, and you will find your own way to being free.
Namaste! – lazyyogi
Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us.
— Emery Allen
The actual feeling of being beautiful is the feeling that nothing is out of place with regard to yourself in this moment. You feel whole, radiant, and accepted.
If this feeling is tied to the body, then you are setting yourself up to suffer at some point in time.
When you start to suspect that you are not your body, what meaning does beauty then have? Your beauty is too infinite for the body or mind to reflect.
The beauty that surpasses the body, the peace that surpasses the mind, both are that eternal Self that knows the mind-body yet cannot be known by the mind-body.
You are that Self and never were you that mind-body appearance. – lazyyogi
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.
— Charles R. Swindoll
Perhaps the greatest faculty our minds possess is the ability to cope with pain. Classic thinking teaches us of the four doors of the mind, which everyone moves through according to their need.
First is the door of sleep. Sleep offers us a retreat from the world and all its pain. Sleep marks passing time, giving us distance from the things that have hurt us. When a person is wounded they will often fall unconscious. Similarly, someone who hears traumatic news will often swoon or faint. This is the mind’s way of protecting itself from pain by stepping through the first door.
Second is the door of forgetting. Some wounds are too deep to heal, or too deep to heal quickly. In addition, many memories are simply painful, and there is no healing to be done. The saying ‘time heals all wounds’ is false. Time heals most wounds. The rest are hidden behind this door.
Third is the door of madness. There are times when the mind is dealt such a blow it hides itself in insanity. While this may not seem beneficial, it is. There are times when reality is nothing but pain, and to escape that pain the mind must leave reality behind.
Last is the door of death. The final resort. Nothing can hurt us after we are dead, or so we have been told.
— Patrick Rothfuss, The Name of the Wind
My life is not possible to tell. I change every day, change my patterns, my concepts, my interpretations. I am a series of moods and sensations. I play a thousand roles. I weep when I find others play them for me. My real self is unknown. My work is merely an essence of this vast and deep adventure. ”
— Anaïs Nin
Live amongst people in such a manner that if you die they weep over you and if you are alive they crave for your company. ”
— Ali Ibn Abi Talib
Everybody has a capacity for a happy life. All these talks about how difficult times we live in, that’s just a clever way to justify fear and laziness.
— Lev Landau
I can believe things that are true and things that aren’t true and I can believe things where nobody knows if they’re true or not.
I can believe in Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny and the Beatles and Marilyn Monroe and Elvis and Mister Ed. Listen – I believe that people are perfectable, that knowledge is infinite, that the world is run by secret banking cartels and is visited by aliens on a regular basis, nice ones that look like wrinkled lemurs and bad ones who mutilate cattle and want our water and our women.
I believe that the future sucks and I believe that the future rocks and I believe that one day White Buffalo Woman is going to come back and kick everyone’s ass. I believe that all men are just overgrown boys with deep problems communicating and that the decline in good sex in America is coincident with the decline in drive-in movie theaters from state to state.
I believe that all politicians are unprincipled crooks and I still believe that they are better than the alternative. I believe that California is going to sink into the sea when the big one comes, while Florida is going to dissolve into madness and alligators and toxic waste.
I believe that antibacterial soap is destroying our resistance to dirt and disease so that one day we’ll all be wiped out by the common cold like martians in War of the Worlds.
I believe that the greatest poets of the last century were Edith Sitwell and Don Marquis, that jade is dried dragon sperm, and that thousands of years ago in a former life I was a one-armed Siberian shaman.
I believe that mankind’s destiny lies in the stars. I believe that candy really did taste better when I was a kid, that it’s aerodynamically impossible for a bumble bee to fly, that light is a wave and a particle, that there’s a cat in a box somewhere who’s alive and dead at the same time (although if they don’t ever open the box to feed it it’ll eventually just be two different kinds of dead), and that there are stars in the universe billions of years older than the universe itself.
I believe in a personal god who cares about me and worries and oversees everything I do. I believe in an impersonal god who set the universe in motion and went off to hang with her girlfriends and doesn’t even know that I’m alive. I believe in an empty and godless universe of causal chaos, background noise, and sheer blind luck.
I believe that anyone who says sex is overrated just hasn’t done it properly. I believe that anyone who claims to know what’s going on will lie about the little things too.
I believe in absolute honesty and sensible social lies. I believe in a woman’s right to choose, a baby’s right to live, that while all human life is sacred there’s nothing wrong with the death penalty if you can trust the legal system implicitly, and that no one but a moron would ever trust the legal system.
I believe that life is a game, that life is a cruel joke, and that life is what happens when you’re alive and that you might as well lie back and enjoy it.
— Neil Gaiman, American Gods
Life has taught me that you can’t control someone’s loyalty. No matter how good you are to them, doesn’t mean they’ll treat you the same. No matter how much they mean to you, doesn’t mean they’ll value you the same. Sometimes the people you love the most, turn out to be the people you can trust the least.
— Trent Shelton
If you are willing to look at another person’s behavior toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person, then you will, over a period of time cease to react at all. ”
— Yogi Bhajan
In school we learn that mistakes are bad, and we are punished for making them. Yet, if you look at the way humans are designed to learn, we learn by making mistakes. We learn to walk by falling down. If we never fell down, we would never walk.
— Robert Kiyosaki, Rich Dad, Poor Dad
If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather.
Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness, and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest, and best things you will ever do.
— Stephen Fry
When you can tell your story and it doesn’t make you cry, that’s when you know you’ve healed.
If you really believe in what you’re doing, work hard, take nothing personally and if something blocks one route, find another. Never give up.
Dont stay in a toxic relationship or a toxic friendship just because you don’t want to be lonely.
friendly advice to not revolve your life around one person, one feeling, one place, one memory, one problem. the complexity of life and the diversity of the world is beautiful and you have the right to explore it. do not settle for less. you deserve better.
prompt 870 – Dante wrote about nine circles of hell. How many circles does your version of hell have? Describe them.
prompt 855 – Complete the sentence “I really wish I hadn’t …” in a creative way, then write a piece about it. It doesn’t have to be true. In fact, the more untrue it is, the better.
prompt 847 – She divided her life into two parts, before and after the accident.
prompt 827 – You must be so disappointed. I know how much you wanted me to fail.